Something to read at night

A new blog as my old one was full of old events and also linked to an email I no longer have access to. I will be blogging about mental health, asexuality, motherhood and so on. Based on personal experiences only.

"if you are only bothered by men doing it then ur pretty sexist" l o l how many times does it have to be explained u can’t be sexist against men

I think people automatically assume prejudice = “ism” which is obviously nonsense. Also to tell someone that not being triggered by women even though women never assaulted them is sexist is just.. do you even know how PTSD works? haha Silly buggers.

Judging from their blog, you shouldn’t have even justified them with a response. They’re just a typical inflammatory douchebag.

I figured when I saw the countless “transphobia doesn’t exist” rants but I believe I’m the better person so I’m nice enough to give a coherent answer. What they do with that answer is none of my business XD

tumbledoge-deactivated20140416 asked: If you find people simply "leering" at you triggering, then the problem obviously lies with you. Honestly, feel free to be triggered by anything but there's no need to call someone a rapist simply for staring at you. Also, how do you feel about girls checking you out? Because, if anything, women tend to stare too. If you are only bothered by men then you're pretty sexist.

I never called someone a rapist for leering. I simply stated that I can sympathise with feeling emotions similar to being raped when someone inappropriately leers at you. Maybe you should learn to read.

I also don’t feel uncomfortable with women checking me out because (and read this carefully) I PERSONALLY (now note the personally) have never been assaulted or raped by a woman. I have however been raped by one man and assaulted by a further two. Therefore I am reacting to my own past history which is not only “duh that’s how the brain works using past experience to protect you” but also not even remotely relevant to the point I was making in the first place which leads me to believe you’re attempting to pull completely irrelevant points out of thin air just to have some kind of excuse to challenge a stranger on their personal triggers and call them a sexist.

Seriously, you’re going to have to do better than that.

doctor-no-boyfriend:

"Stare rape" does not exist. 

It is a insult to rape survivors if you dismiss someone looking at your ass nonchalantly at the supermarket is even remotely similar to someone violently assaulting / sexually abusing you without consent , mentally scarring you for fucking life.

I wouldn’t say it’s “as bad as” seeing as I’ve experienced both but I have felt pretty violated by the way people leer before. Sometimes it can even be triggering. Don’t dismiss a look just because you’re not bothered by it *shrug*

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Busy

I really need time to myself, completely alone with no human contact and no chores or coursework to do. Being an introvert who is constantly on show is really getting to me. My memory is so bad I can’t even recall things I did a few days ago and my thoughts won’t stop racing or falling into one another. It almost physically HURTS my head. The worst part is I don’t foresee a break any time in my future. Fuck.

http://persephone-falls.tumblr.com/post/80565973143/darkness-and-me-if-you-hate-men-you-are-not-a

bleak-necrotic-paleness:

persephone-falls:

darkness-and-me:

If you hate men you are not a feminist

If you hate men you are not a feminist

If you hate men you are not a feminist

This is a strange thing. Because technically due to my PTSD I find it very hard not to hate men in my head and maleness. However I fully support…

I think they mean if you hate men for no reason other than them having a penis, not if you have legitimate reasons to.

You say that but I disagree. I’ve been told I’m not entitled to feel uncomfortable around men because of my experiences because hey not all men are rapists and you are discriminating against me by not wanting to sit next to me on the bus or walking down the street at night near me :D Seriously, people tell victims of rape who are uncomfortable around a certain gender to get over it all the time. It’s fucking annoying, as if we choose to have that kind of reaction.

darkness-and-me:

If you hate men you are not a feminist 

If you hate men you are not a feminist

If you hate men you are not a feminist 

This is a strange thing. Because technically due to my PTSD I find it very hard not to hate men in my head and maleness. However I fully support gender equality. I think there’s a difference between having a thought in the back of your head and acting it out in the things you support. Kind of how some religious folks support gay marriage despite still disagreeing with homosexuality in their heads.

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betterbooktitles:

Another important message from @DanWilbur 

Hey, I would if I could -_-
bleak-necrotic-paleness:

the-unpopular-opinions:

i really hate how every girl who keeps her armpit hair feels the need to expose it in her selfies. don’t get me wrong, i don’t care what you do with your body hair- it’s TOTALLY your buisness. i just think those selfies with one arm raised look silly. i mean, what are you trying to prove? are you trying to impress someone? 

I thought they didn’t care what people think…

LOL It’s totally their own business but how dare they show it in a photo. Someone doesn’t listen to themselves speak I guess? 

bleak-necrotic-paleness:

the-unpopular-opinions:

i really hate how every girl who keeps her armpit hair feels the need to expose it in her selfies. don’t get me wrong, i don’t care what you do with your body hair- it’s TOTALLY your buisness. i just think those selfies with one arm raised look silly. i mean, what are you trying to prove? are you trying to impress someone? 

I thought they didn’t care what people think…

LOL It’s totally their own business but how dare they show it in a photo. Someone doesn’t listen to themselves speak I guess? 

Lapse

I have not posted in a while again and I wish I could say I was surprised but.. I’m not. I get lazy and demotivated after taking care of River 24/7 with not much sleep ever. Sorry D:

I really want to start a parenting-focused blog with my favourite recipes and activities to do with kids and toy reviews and stuff but I need a decent camera (all I have is a phone with a shit camera that doesn’t send photos to other phones or upload to my PC, a webcam which doesn’t work on my Windows partition and I never use the Mac side and a digital camera that runs out of battery so quickly I can never be bothered recharging it all the time and it also doesn’t upload to my PC so I have to use my mother’s laptop and that’s annoying) which probably isn’t going to happen any time soon because limited budget. Poopers.